60 smart tips on how to stop being afraid to bounce

1. Not everyone is ready to meet you. Faced with the refusal, ask to explain why and try to bypass it.

2. To negotiate with several people at once is much harder than with someone one. When you ask for something, it's better to talk to a person face to face.

3. Try to laugh, then communication is not exactly to the elevated tone.

4. When you ask about something, it is very important to seem confident.

If you are impressed by the knowledgeable person, you have a much better chance of getting a positive response.

5. If you ask about something, but you don't have the time to complete this request, suggest alternative solutions to the problem. Say, for example: "Unfortunately, now I can not do that because … But I know a few good professionals who can help you.

6. If out you'll be kind and benevolent, you will not be able turn nasty.

7. Even if your proposal very attractive, you can still deny, if you do not give a convincing reason why the interviewee must agree. The next time you have something to offer, be sure to use the word "because".

8. Do not forget, after the word "no" always ask why.

Even if the opinion of the interviewee will not be able to change, it is always useful to know the reason for the refusal.

9. The world is full of amazing experiences and people we don't even suspect because of its constant rush.

10. If before voice request, you are very worried about, then stop and take a deep breath. You will feel much more confident when you act slowly and carefully speak each word.

11. People tend to respond on the other well. Don't be afraid to ask someone to do you a compliment and compliment yourself. You'll see and you and your interlocutor will become a little bit happier.

12. In business negotiations, the first "no" should not be the end of the discussion. Very often you together with the other party can find an alternative solution. Always try to keep cool and don't focus on one version.

13. Marketing gimmicks and perseverance you will not help if you don't have the correct access channel.

Sometimes you are denied not because or as you say, and to whom you say it.

14. If you feel that the person does not intend to continue to talk with you, do not try to convince him. And don't take it at their own expense.

15. If you have something to offer, don't be afraid to do that. It is possible that someone now just looking for it.

16. It doesn't matter whether you offer customers your product or ask passers-by money for charity, always clearly explain what go means.

17. Humor is good, but don't overdo it. Clumsy or misplaced joke may cost you dearly.

18. One of the most effective ways to refuse someone is to translate the conversation to another topic.

People love to talk about themselves and their interests.

If you razgovorite, you can avoid the interlocutor of the conflict situation.

19. For sales, it is important to know their customers and their needs. When the client has made it clear that it is necessary, do not try to impose their opinion.

20. Of course, the representatives of the service have the right to deny the specific request or to linger before agreeing. But only play on without hesitation, "Yes" and additional efforts are sure to delight the customer and make him come back.

21. Before you ask for something, give the man his respect. Not only podhalimnichajte or attempt to manipulate, try to remain sincere.

22. Don't be afraid to propose service to man, which he himself provides. After all, if someone prepares food every day for others, this does not mean that he will refuse.

23. During any negotiation, always keep in mind not only primary but also secondary purpose.

People don't like to say "no" twice in a row. So, if you refuse the first request may agree to the second.

24. People prefer to deny not directly, but through intermediaries. Therefore, when possible, always enter negotiations with who decides and not with his subordinates.

25. Whatever you were trying to reach, persistence is the key to success.

26. Remember that your request for another person may be related to risk or any obstacles. Suggest something that will reduce the risk or eliminate the obstacles. For example, if you want to get a job offer downloads to work without pay. If you want to sell something, offer the customer the first 10 days to use the product free of charge.

27. Try turning request about the service call. For example, saying "the majority would not do that, but we would be very grateful if you could help us." Still only give to understand exactly what you are asking about the service, so it did not seem to fraud.

28. Don't settle if you are not sure that you will be able to perform its promise.

The golden rule: "Promise less, do more".

29. Inaction scares a lot more than action. After all, if we aspire to something and get a waiver, then tried to become better.

30. Neglect is a form of denial. If you are to someone about neglect, do not be surprised that the people will reject you.

31. Before you ask about something, try to establish contact with the person and find understanding. It is one of the oldest and most effective methods of communication.

32. Do not forget that people are members assigned with authority in the first place still people. They are governed by the same rules as everyone else. Behave with them naturally, otherwise you can get not only refused, but worse.

33. In most cases, interpersonal interaction, including during transactions and negotiations, you will feel more comfortable if you know what the interviewee is on your side. Confidence helps you achieve the desired.

34. If you are a business, don't be afraid to test their ideas into practice and receive waivers clients.

You will be able to understand whether your product is good only when it is in the hands of customers.

35. Sometimes, the request may be such a strange that you refuse to just automatically. Therefore, before you ask, explain why you need it. And if you still say "no", don't forget to ask why.

36. No matter how heavy was the conversation, try not to succumb to negative emotions. Only then can you expect a positive response.

37. When someone explains the reason for the refusal, referring to third persons, a system or organization, try to separate their interests from the organization. Only do not put in jeopardy the interlocutor's relationship with a third party.

38. Fear often causes us to reject themselves before us rejected by others.

39. However difficult, frightening or absurd the situation, always helps. If you stop the fear of rejection, just practice in receiving bounce. When you again and again will be in awkward situations, your fear will soon disappear.

40. Remember the words of Bruce Lee:

"If you always set boundaries that can do, physical or anything else, you can just as well be dead." — Bruce Lee, actor and Director.

This applies to work on morals, for life.

41. We are afraid of rejection, because after they feel unsure of yourself and frustrated. With this fear can help the so-called therapy failure. Getting waivers in response to minor requests for you, you get used to that feeling and learn to not be afraid to ask about what is truly important to you.

42. During the talks, we should listen to, rather than to their own thoughts.

43. Robert Kennedy once said: "some are looking to the device things and think," Why? ". I dream about something that never was, and think: "why not?". All we should increasingly be asking yourself: "Why not?".

44. With complicated easier to cope alone and in a group. Support and encouragement colleagues sometimes help much more than personal courage.

45. If you have been denied in one place, it doesn't mean that you and your request does not stand to attention.

Sometimes you just need to request to another location or to another person.

46. If your request is an unusual and daring, first offer to do something similar yourself. This is a great way to establish contact with the person and run the principle of mutual exchange.

47. Knowledge can be obtained from books, master classes and in the classroom. But this knowledge is transformed into skills only in practice.

48. No matter how noble is your goal, always think first and foremost about their actions, rather than on the results.

49. Always offer their assistance.

50. When you are unhappy with something in life, try wrapping the situation in their favor and receive from it pleasure. This will help to cope with a bad mood.

51. You can weigh the pros and cons, debate, and wait for the right moment, but you will achieve nothing until you start to act.

The only way to get rid of fear is to look him in the eye.

52. If you live in a big city or work in a tense area where you have to collide with the failures, consider it an advantage rather than a disadvantage. It's motivating to work on herself and push for more.

53. Everyone likes to learn something new. If its request to mention information that will help your conversation partner fill the gap in knowledge, the chances for a positive outcome of the negotiations may increase.

54. Finishing his studies and entering the professional world, we often begin to live so that our lives are planned in advance. We stop to make impulsive actions and enjoy life. But this is wrong: spontaneity makes life more colorful and vibrant.

55. All people tend to curiosity. If you want interest questioner, ask him a question, answer it for sure would like to know.

56. Don't focus on results, that you can't control.

Better think about what you can change. About their actions.

57. Absolutely all fear. In order to achieve mutual understanding, you need to reduce the impact of fear on us. When we are not afraid of ourselves, we can help others to overcome their fears.

58. Denial is something like a lottery. If you try again and again, you can win.

59. Sometimes, no matter how you tried and no matter how practiced, you still will not be able to completely get rid of the fear of failure. Just proceed despite his fear, and most likely you will not regret.

60. The main life hack: focus on your business, not on someone else's opinion.

Due to the so-called effect Spotlight we are afraid to perform extraordinary deeds and take the risk, because we believe that surrounding notice our oddities and failures and condemn us. But in reality no one before us the case. And even if someone would express their opinion, why should it worry us?

In a world of billions and billions of views. Constantly worrying about what others think, we inevitably begin to adapt to their expectations or, even worse, under our view about these expectations. As a result, we prozhivjom zaurjadnuju life.

So try not to get hung up on itself, so you can focus on your business and help others.

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Автор статьи: Максим Миллер - о авторе.
Бизнесмен, инвестор, финансовый консультант Facebook
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